“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody’ Maya Angelou.
Now in my 60’s, I can hand on heart say these immortal words to myself and believe it.
I had an enviable reputation for being creative, highly respected and working at an international level with global brands. Leading a team of 10, we were turning over in excess of £1m. I was at the top of my game and life was good. Then in 2008 it all changed and I lost everything. A combination of the huge recession, an incompetent booker and negligent accountancy firm – HMRC were biting at my heals and the mortgage on my business premises became overwhelming. I was drowning under the financial stress of it all.
Alongside this, my family took a battering, my team were made redundant and my suppliers and freelance talent had to be informed. I was heartbroken and ashamed I had failed everyone. How was I going to get out of this one and survive to tell the tale?
10 ways to build yourself back up in times of darkness
- Get angry, but don’t blame anyone. This will release the energy you need to deal with the fight or flight experience.
- Look in the mirror, accept your situation and agree to move forward.
- Be honest with everyone – a problem shared is a problem halved.
- Take time out to recharge your batteries – the world can wait.
- Accept help. Don’t be afraid or too proud
- Get good practical advice (emotional and financial help)
- Find a mentor to guide and encourage you
- Make a plan
- Do something different
- Be kind to yourself and give to others
What goes around comes around – believe it. I can’t tell you the gratitude I have for my faith, amazing friends, family, business colleagues, CEO mentorship and support group, clients, creatives, suppliers and my bank manager.
Finally, know in the grand scheme of things ‘THIS TOO SHALL PASS’. As this door closes another one opens.
For more tips, advice and support in getting back up – contact me today.
Anita Brightley-Hodges
Founder, Saphora Private
anita@saphoraprivate.com
